I get angry and offended, and then I say offensive and insulting things, and then it just fuels the other person to say even more offensive things, and it’s just a vicious unhelpful cycle. I want to stop doing this.
I’m asking in this section because this is the section it primarily occurs in for me.
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1st just go visit the polls and surveys section
2nd realize that many people here are very PC and they take many questions about any group personally. they assume that youre talking about every person in a group as opposed to just in general
3rd dont take it personally. its not worth it. after a while I realized that even though this section can be interesting, there are way too many PC people that dont even answer the questions and just criticize
but best bet is to just take a break from this section altogether and block those people that ESPECIALLY piss you off
Jack,
Remember that we are all humans.If you really want to stop these unwholesome actions. The first thing you can do is just not answer the question at all. If you see a question or answer that makes you angry then remind yourself where obeying anger leads, try to be mindful of your thoughts and feelings and know that they are only that. So don’t let them take advantage of you. I never answer any questions that have already been asked many times before or if the question is a joke, racist, hate, etc. So to start off you can answer the questions that only ask for help or for some understanding. Help them with your answer without attacking anyone and only answer the question. Try to cultivate patience and empathy. These two characteristics of a person go a long way.
Get off the site then.
edit: oh wow, I almost didn’t realize it was you Jack, king of Anti Racism. I soon realized you answered a troll’s question (the obama one) and now that I realize it was YOU I’m really shocked by the racist answer you gave.
I laughed and commented and applauded the troll on his job well done in exposing the racism that “doesn’t” exist in america. Funny you were one of the people I disagreed with.
You are a total hypocrite.
Stop spewing your fake “i’m so peaceful” crap.
There have been times in this section where three-five “i hate n words” trollls have been on here at once. Now, one fake “i hate crackers” troll is on here and whites are going berserk. Hilarious.
This is one of the biggest problems with this section as well as in Politics and Relationships. I’ve asked innocent questions before and gotten some insulting answers accusing me of being racist, ignorant, uneducated, immature. I’ve even gotten hate mail for my answers. The thing that worries me is that there are a lot of young kids on here asking innocent questions and I’ve seen them getting similar answers. People need to think twice before posting insulting answers. All the trolls make themselves known, so why attack someone who’s probably on here to honestly learn about other cultures? I know that if I was a 12-year old, I would feel hurt and confused as to why people were calling me names for asking a question.
You just have to keep in mind that some people take things way too personally, and there are some who are just plain angry people so they take it out online. A lot of those insults and hate mail don’t even deserve a response. By responding, you’re only fueling the fire and giving them the attention they seek. Next time this happens, just ignore, give them a thumbs down, block them, or report them if they have broken a community guideline.
You could try what I do: Try and think from the perspective of the other person.
For example: Abortion. I personally don’t agree with it, but I can see the other side of the debate.
Pro life sure, but…. what if a girl is raped? Does she not have the right to an abortion?
Or; I don’t agree with blacks holding a grude against white people for slavery that happened over a 100 years ago, BUT, I can see their side; they had distant relatives that were inslaved and beaten by white people with nothing to show for it but scars.
The most important thing for you to remember is that there is always another side. No matter how much you believe in what you believe in, they too may feel the same way. If you want to have a intelligent debate, then really try to see their point of view, and don’t be upset about it. Accept their point of view, admit if they have some valid points, even if it goes against what you believe in, and most of all, don’t start the name calling game. If anyone does not like another persons point of view, and they start calling names, then it usually means they have no arguement or anything intelligent to say. If that’s the case, really, be the better man and tell them, ” I didn’t call you any names, I tried to have a open and honest debate/discussion but if you can not find anything intelligent to say other than to call names and insult me for my beliefs, than there is no point in discussing anything with you. We will agree to disagree and it is over”. Simple as that.
Don’t get caught up in the whole name calling thing, and insults, and letting someone get you upset, there’s no point in that.
Keep an open mind and know that even though you may be right, someone else who disagrees with you might also be right.
A certain amount of anger is normal, especially for people who passionately care about a cause. That is why I constantly ridicule the Fundies (Ridicule destroys everything,” is a French proverb). I am supportive and sympathetic to those I think need such things, and I will answer the innocents who ask questions like What does ‘Greek’ mean in sex?
By nature I’m quite confrontational. Not everybody is. You can develop tact and poise without any cost to your integrity.
I’ll give you full marks for having the courage to admit this I have seen many of your posts in R&S
Your latest one is critsizing those who have thumbed you down It was five last time I looked
You need to understand This is a Public Forum and people are at liberty to answer in how they choose without the abuse
It this section in particular there are many from the Black Community who have suffered Themselves or have living Relatives who have suffered through the many forms of injustice your are not old enough to fully understand and yes have every right to be angry at times
Try and respect other peoples views even if they don’t accord with your own
Don’t take any questions or answers personally. Consider that you are enlightening the seeker and aiding the education of your fellow man. No one is expressing his opinion TO anger you and being so invested in the question/answer that you become angry doesn’t SERVE you. Bonne nuit, my brother.
We all do the same thing. Can I recommend something to you with all respect though? Get to know some more people in this world. I have seen some of those answers and you’ve answered like those people I want to strangle on the street. You seem like you need to experience a few more things in life.
Well Jack, you have some serious issues against black people. The only time I see you get angry is to bash black people.
What you need to realize is that people are people, stop generalizing, stop hating, stop attacking.
one way is to just ignore it and forget about it.
another is to answer it and defend yourself but in a calm way, you don’t want to come off as rude, just think about your answer and if you think it doesn’t sound rude then, you’re a-okay!
It is because you have a low tolerance for stupidity.
I suffer from the same problem, and I get frustrated with most of these people myself. Tonight, it’s Kitty. I wish we could thumbs down the questions, that might help a bit.
You’ll just have to grow up and be the more mature person in the argument. If you can’t do this, then perhaps it might be better if you just avoid this section completely.
just remember that this is site FULL of opinions. so maybe you wanna take a little break, and try a new sight for a while. not everyone is the same, try not to judge best of luck
just simply dont answer the questions and dont insult others. unless they insulted u then it would be ok if u do that but only after they still keep abusing it and being insulting.
cuz u r a crazy white person. dont worry its a typical white persons behaviour.
No offense but i think you just need anger management class. You’re letting your anger get the best of you.
Sounds like a personal problem to me that cannot be resolved by yahoo answers. A shrink maybe?
Pinky is so funny!!! Its very simple lad stop answering the questions thats what I do.
Stop taking Y/A so personal and you’ll be just fine.
LOLZ@PINKY
Everyone does it, it’s called human nature.
be glad that you stick to your opinions.