I’m a 15 year old male, that gets angry fast, and for everything. And people at school always say that I always have a pissed off look, and I really have a strong hatred against my bad because of the way he is with my mom and me, and I just hate him.
And I always like using violence for everything. I really wanna stop getting angry for everything, or getting mad at everyone.
What can I do?
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When you feel irritated or angry, here are a couple steps you can take to not lash out:
1) Stop and think: Why are you angry? Is it rational?
2) Decide whether your anger is your fault, or the other person’s?
3) If it is your fault, apologize for anything you might have said, or leave the situation (politely!)
4) If you think it is the other person’s fault, calmly tell them you disagree or you’re annoyed or whatever, and try to compromise
5) If you don’t think you can do that calmly and rationally, politely say you need to leave and address the problem when you are cooled off.
Hope I helped
The first step in anger management is recognizing you have a problem. If you agree with the people at school then you are on your way to changing your behavior. The source of your anger may certainly be your dad. If that is the case and you are able to talk to him, that would be a way to defuse your anger. Especially if you can tell him how angry you are and why. I am going to assume you can’t really talk to him and in that case we go to plan B. You can’t just go to school smiling and laughing becuase they would think you really lost your mind, so start going with a neutral appearance. Not happy and not pissed off. Gradually look less angry and more relaxed. Then try smiling a bit more. If you feel yourself ramping up to a blow out, try wearing a strong rubber band around your wrist, and every time you feel violent, snap it. The negative reinforcement of that momentary pain might just defuse your anger. If you just can’t get a handle on it, call a crisis hotline or talk to a counselor at school. You might need a bit more help to get past this. Take it seriously before you hurt yourself or someone else.
Breathe. I used to have major anger issues, and my therapist did this exercise with me–whenever I got really mad, I closed my eyes, breathed deeply, and tried to feel everything–where my legs were on the seat, what my hands felt like, whatever. When you get super angry, you kind of…well, lose your head/mind, and the more you can ‘center’ yourself back in reality (instead of letting your temper carry you away), the better. It sounds SO lame, and when she told me I was like “Yeahhh, that’s touchy-feely BS, that’s not gonna work.” I tried it, though, and it did work.
Write in a diary.
You seem to know the source of your anger, but it’s always good to explore it a little more. If you really understand where it comes from, you can work on it more easily.
Exercise. If you feel violent sometimes, sports can really get rid of that excess energy that can fuel anger. Try sports like football, boxing, etc.–contact sports that really let you channel your aggression.
Writing definitely helps a lot – sorting through any feelings of frustration, rejection or hurt and figuring out what you can do thats positive instead of yelling and screaming – helps..its excellent that you know that you have a problem..now, you just need to take the time and work on it so it doesn’t affect your life in a bad way. This article is a good resource on dealing with anger positively – http://www.ehow.com/how_5168700_use-ange… (How to Use Anger to Take Positive Action)
Find someone you can talk to when you get angry. Someone who will listen.
Learn to count to ten before you blow your top.
I guess you’re just going to have to suck it up, be a man, and quit letting everything get to you like a little b1tch.
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